The Quality of Life

Near the end of her long life, I asked my grandmother if she could go back, would she change anything.  “No,” she said, “I’ve had a wonderful life!” I guess we can either chase what we want or want what we have. Grandma was clearly in the latter camp. Still, it begs the question. What …

Loneliness

Sometimes life resembles the two ants floating downstream on a log, thinking they're steering. We rarely have as much control over life as we think. The past year was proof.  In the song "Big Yellow Taxi," Joni Mitchel sang; "Don't it always seem to go,that you don't know what you got 'til it's gone." We …

Belonging

Recently while cleaning out my office, I stumbled across my high school yearbook. Our high school was very “clique-ish.” I was not one of the cool kids.  In middle school, kids were just kids. By the time we reached high school, a rigid caste system splintered us into factions. A few of my good buddies …

The Power of We

During the recent inauguration, I heard the term his-story substituted for history, which of course, was about to change. I never thought about that before, but it struck me as an accurate description of the past. I've spent years tracing our family's genealogy. The easiest way to do that is to go straight back along …

Half-Way There

I've kept a personal journal for over thirty years. I've never shown it to anyone. Recently, it occurred to me that there was a decent chance no one would ever see it.  After dad passed away, my sister and I took responsibility for getting rid of his stuff. It was an emotionally draining task. Some …

A Quality Life

What do you want to be when you grow up? It's been years since I've heard that question. Most of us stop thinking about it after graduating from school and land our first "real" job. From there, reality takes over and life, in Robert Frost's words, flows on its own melt. In a time frame …